Thoughts On Free Choice & Incompetence

We All Have Choices. Learning mode gain? No..

If it’s an obligation, then you don’t have a choice.

Pretending you have a choice is simply a way to create frustration. Accept the situation. Free yourself to do what you have to do.

On the other hand, if you do have a choice (and you probably do) then it doesn’t make sense to treat it as an obligation. Own the choice. Put some energy in deciding what you really want.  Add some creativity to make it a special project. Own the result. Feel the joy and disappointment.
I know it’s not pleasant. But it is not going to kill you. It will make you stronger.

The truth is that at some point, grown ups get tired of the feeling that accompanies growth and learning.

We start calling that feeling, “incompetent.”

We’re not good at the new software, we resist a brainstorming session for a new way to solve a problem, we never bothered to learn to juggle…

Learning again?

Not because we don’t want the results, but because the journey promises to be difficult. Difficult in the sense that we’ll feel incompetent. Others, maybe younger and more energetic would feel ready for the challenge.

Learning accompanies all growth. T some point we, sort of, do not want to ‘be in learning mode’ anymore.

First we realize something can be done.

Then we realize we can’t do it.

And finally, we get better at it.

It’s the second step that messes with us. So, what is the thought which follows?

If you care enough to make a difference, if you care enough to get better–you should care enough to experience incompetence again.